Power consists in making oneself the goal of another person's social instincts, without seeking to satisfy one's own social instincts through him. The other then does everything one asks. Powerlessness consists in wanting or having to satisfy one's social instincts through another person whose social instincts one has not succeeded in concentrating on oneself - one then does everything the other asks. Esther Vilar
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On one hand, we must not be led around by others. We cannot let others dictate our actions and who we will be. However, on the other hand, we must endear ourselves to others and make them want to help us. When we do this, we can get them to do anything we like.

Source: The Polygamous Sex

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